Is Chivalry Really Dead?

Dasja Ashbrook ( Tiffany )
By: Tiffany on October 23, 2012 11:57 pm PST   Flag blog entry   

So I understand that it’s the 21st century and all, but does anybody ever wonder if “chivalry” is really dead?


After having gone on a few unsuccessful dates, I really began to wonder if that was the case. I mean, I am not a woman who has standards that are set so high only a NBA player could reach them, but it seems that something has gone terribly wrong. Guys are just not made the way that they once were, and the culprit….. well, there are a few theories I have in mind for both women and men to chime in on.

Movies

Is it possible, that we as women have become so fixated on what we see in movies that we try to will it into existence? When you watch a love story you find that the man is perfect in every way during date scenes. They will open your car door, pull out your chair for you to sit down, and even walk on the outside of the sidewalk as a sign of respect. Could it be that this type of man only exists on the big screen?

Role Models

I have heard this theory said a lot of times that chivalry is something that should be taught. With that in mind, could it be possible that men do not have the proper role models in their lives. If a guy does not have a positive male role model, who can teach them how to treat a woman, is this something he can learn on his own? Or better yet, if a man has a horrible role model in the home with them, is it possible they pick up on what they lived with?

New Era

Another theory to the dying tradition of chivalry would be simply the times we live in. In the old days we as women were to stay home and mind the house, take care of the children, and cater to your husband’s needs. Today, we have independent women, single mothers, and even breadwinners who are females in the home. Could the lack of chivalry be due to a changing generation as a whole?

Women

I know you don’t want to hear this last option, but it is a simple theory. Are we as women the culprits in the reason why men don’t treat us with the “respect” we think we should have while courting? Women hold a lot of power that many of us don’t realize. Due to past experiences, insecurities, strong independence, and much more we tend to be more proactive in doing things for ourselves. Have we as a result created a standard that men don’t have to do these things for us, because we are more than capable?

I am not sure what the real answer is, it could seriously be a combination of all of the above. I know I have wondered time and time again where the respect has gone, especially during the courting phase. Whether you are into chivalry or not, be encouraged to share your view on why men are so lousy at being gentlemen in these modern times.


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