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It is hard enough trying to get back into the dating game when you’ve just gone through a divorce or bad breakup. What makes it worse is the fact that one day you will have to introduce your date to your children.
Whether you’re a mother or a father, the idea of allowing someone into your child’s life can be a very scary circumstance. Will your kid accept them? Will they get along with your date? Are you introducing them too soon? How will your ex feel about it? With all these thoughts running through your mind, the idea of going out on your first date with your significant other and your kids can be a hard pill to swallow. Continue reading to find out pointers and tips for great places to introduce your date.
Bowling
Children don’t want to spend time at the dinner table feeling forced to speak to a person that they barely even know. They are still likely processing their feelings from your previous breakup and may appear guarded when speaking to your date. Rather than put your date or your child in an awkward situation you can try doing something eventful like bowling.
Water/Theme Park
Another great atmosphere to introduce your date to your children is in a fun setting with lots of games and rides. This allows you kids to be kids while adapting to the new relationship you have. Encourage your date to get on rides and participate in fun games to show your child their friendly side.
Dinner/Movie
This can be a great combination if you plan it right. Kids love movies, and now days there is always a new movie to see. Ask your kids where they would like to go to eat. By choosing a restaurant that your child loves and feels comfortable in you’re letting them know that their needs are still number one in your life. By planning an entire date night around your child it will take away the notion that this new guy/girl is coming into your life to take over.
Rules to Remember
Some important things that all parents should keep in mind when introducing their date to their children are that nothing should be forced. While your child is young, they do have feelings and you have to let them process this in their own time. Be sure to talk to them before the date to let them know that there is nothing they need to worry about. During the date do not force conversations or similarities among your date and your child just allow things to happen as they will? Also, don’t be hard on yourself if your child does not come around as fast as you would like. It may take more than one meeting for your child to learn to like your date.
These are just a few places that you can take your child to meet your date. Remember to center the entire day around what they like so that your date can get to know them in their own environment. Choosing adult atmospheres will only bore your child and in essence ruin your date.
Tags: dating game, introduce your date, dating with children
Bowling
Children don’t want to spend time at the dinner table feeling forced to speak to a person that they barely even know. They are still likely processing their feelings from your previous breakup and may appear guarded when speaking to your date. Rather than put your date or your child in an awkward situation you can try doing something eventful like bowling.
Water/Theme Park
Another great atmosphere to introduce your date to your children is in a fun setting with lots of games and rides. This allows you kids to be kids while adapting to the new relationship you have. Encourage your date to get on rides and participate in fun games to show your child their friendly side.
Dinner/Movie
This can be a great combination if you plan it right. Kids love movies, and now days there is always a new movie to see. Ask your kids where they would like to go to eat. By choosing a restaurant that your child loves and feels comfortable in you’re letting them know that their needs are still number one in your life. By planning an entire date night around your child it will take away the notion that this new guy/girl is coming into your life to take over.
Rules to Remember
Some important things that all parents should keep in mind when introducing their date to their children are that nothing should be forced. While your child is young, they do have feelings and you have to let them process this in their own time. Be sure to talk to them before the date to let them know that there is nothing they need to worry about. During the date do not force conversations or similarities among your date and your child just allow things to happen as they will? Also, don’t be hard on yourself if your child does not come around as fast as you would like. It may take more than one meeting for your child to learn to like your date.
These are just a few places that you can take your child to meet your date. Remember to center the entire day around what they like so that your date can get to know them in their own environment. Choosing adult atmospheres will only bore your child and in essence ruin your date.
Tags: dating game, introduce your date, dating with children